Until Death Do We...

Thinking back to the wonderful day that my husband and I were married I am drawn to the vows.

Until death do we part...

I am reminded of this because someone had said to me that I was married to the military. No, I'm not married to the military but to a man who is in the military. My thoughts even drifted back to my wedding vows. Did they say...

Until military do we part...

I mean my wedding ceremony was long winded, there are parts of it that is missing from my memory but I am 100% sure the above statement was not said. It was something more along the lines of until death do we part. 

I do realize, in fact why my blog is named "Smile and Deal with it" that as a military wife a lot of things are thrown at me that are unexpected. My husband could be gone when I don't want him to be let's be honest who really wants their husband gone. 

But do not say I am married to the military. I'm not. I'm married to my husband. Part of me wanted to ask this person if later on when my husband retires if I needed to divorce the military. But I held back. 

One day my husband will not be in the military. I won't have to deal with him going away and just have his presence around depending upon the job he takes. I also won't have the advantages that I do have now with him being in the military. There are pros and cons. 

While I classify myself as a military wife I do not say that I am married to the military. That would be stretching it and just isn't true. 

My husband and I made a vow to honor and cherish, among other things. But none of those vows involved the military. I wish more women would see this. 

Do not let what your spouse does for a living define you. You are your own person. Do not get lost. Do not loose your voice. Remain true to yourself.